About the Poem

This is a very personal poem. I was 19 when I discovered I was pregnant. I love my son more than life, but at the time I felt very lost and confused. I wrote the poem about two weeks after hearing the news.

Going To Be A Mother

by Ruwaida Van Doorsen

I face the future
Already planned for me
No nothing for me to expect
There’s nothing to wait and see

For my destiny has been mapped out
I shall have no more youthful days
I shall never feel the thrill again
Of raucous, rebellious ways

I shall rear a child for eighteen years
Maybe even longer
For although I’m still a child myself
I’m going to be a mother

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56 Visitor Comments

Louise

omg this is an awesome poem. I had my first child at 15, and my second when i was 18. Im now 21. its been very difficult! i wouldnt have it any other way, i love my 2 kids they are a joy everyday, and always growing! i feel blessed every single day. xo

Curlishia

This is was a great poem i can relate to this because i have had 2 miscarriages and pregnant now.

YAHAIRA

HEY GIRL. I REALLY LIKE THIS POEM. IM ONLY 16 YEARS OLD TURNIN 17 IN MAY 07 ND MA BOYFRIEND IS ONLY 14 YEARS OLD . IM MOST LIKELY GONNA HAVE HIS KID ND THIS POEM REALLY HELPED ME TO THINK ND I REALIZED ALOT. I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO KEEP IT IF IM PREGNANT CUZ I DONT BELIEVE IN ABORTION AND MY BOYFRIEND IS REALLY HAPPY TO KNOW THAT I COULD BE HAVIN HIZ KID. IM REALLY SCARED THOUGH AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO BUT NOW I THINK I KNOW WHAT I HAVE TO DO. ALL MY FRIENDZ LOOK AT ME ADN SAY IM CRAZY ND YOUNG AND THEY ASK ME HOW CAN I BE PREGNANT WITH A GUY I HAVENT BEEN WITH FOR 1 MONTH BUT I DONT REALY CARE. BE GUD MAMA ND DONT WORRY BOUT ANYTHING ULL BE OK ND ULL GET THROUGH IT. TAKE CARE BE EASY.

Tammy

I wished I saw this poem when I got pregnant I am 21 and have 2 kids and lost 3 I lost one at the age of 13 a lil boy plus i lost my daughter's twin at 4 months into the pregnancy then i lost my son's twin at 3 months so I am supposed to have a 9 yr old, 2 8 yr olds, and 2 4 yr olds yup 5 kids at 21 the sad thing is that i have none of them i lost my son and daughter due to lies that there dad said plus my first born's dad passed on April 21,2001 exactly 2years and sum odd months afterour son. well i hope that all young mom's to be or mommy's love their kids unconditionly because the pain you feel when you lose them is unbearable.

Alana

this poem touched me alot because im going the same things, and i feel the same way. i like it alot

louise

this poem is so good, I was 21 and found out i was pregnant with twins and i had broke up with the father this has been the most difficult thing in my life, i felt exactly how you did but it was on the loss of my twins that it made me see id lost the best thing that has happened to me, it was and is still 4 years on the hardest thing to have to say goodbye. i decided not to tell the father i guess in a way to protect him from the hurt that i will live with for the rest of my life, ive made the choice to protect him be it right or wrong. my twins and all ur babies live on forever more there our little rising stars.

Ashley

i love this poem b/c it is what i was thinking i have two wonderful kids i was 16 when i got pregent with my first and she is almost two i didn't get to finish school b/c i had to work to take care of my little girl well now i am getting my GED i also have a wonderful son and i was 19 when i had him it is hard being a single mother at a young age i know all about people downing you talking bad about you but in the end you still have a love that can't be takeing away from you and that is the love of a child i am my childern's hero the one that they look up to it is just the little things that matter to them to let them know that you are there and will never leave there side so i loved the poem keep up the good work

Raven

I think its a wonderful poem because my girlfriend is nineteen and pregnant. However she won't face the hardships considering I'll be there for her.

priscilla

Hey , I think that u writting this poem has changed my thoughts of bieng a mother. I am 18 and am going to be a mother for the second time. My first was when I was 16 and I was d by my cuzin so I didn't know if I should have it or not so he wa adopted and has a great set of perents. I named him peter pan, really. Now I am 3 months pregnant and the father is 30 ,but I love him with all my heart then again I have thoughts saying should I keep this baby. thanxs for writting this poem it changed and opened my eyes. Keep ur head up.

suneliz

im 16 1/2 my birthday is in march but i got pregnant when i was 15 and just had my lil one 8/14/06 your poem reminded me of my self and i would like you to know just keep your head up and belive in your self cuz your not alone thanks 4 reading my comment

Anne

My child, you sure are going to be a mother now, if thos poem is reality! But your youth is not lost! Yes, you have to be responsible now, but you will not believe the love you will hold for that little baby! I am 22, Married, and I have a 3 year old little girl. I cannot imagine life without her! She is so perfect in every way! And each day is a new lesson for me as well as her! I am growing up too! We all are! Even if your 55 with grandbabys, your still growing up too!

Rachel

I understand how you feel. I was 14 years old when I first got pregnant but I was forced to get an abortion. Take good care of your child they're the greatest blessing God could ever give a woman.

Danielle

Hey, this was a really great poem for me! I had my baby boy at the age of 15 and yet the youngest mother i know!I was hard at first. Goin throught all the pain and THOSE 9 MONTHS! But afterwards so so worth it! I am now 17 yrs old and i love my son more than anything and would do anything in the world for him! When my son was born can u believe his sorry ass dad wasnt even there said he wanted no part of this and wasnt his fault. I guess I got myself pregant. huh. lol. Well good luck in future and i wish u and your baby the best in life!

ERIKA

THIS IS A VERY GOOD AND BAD SITUATION I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED THIS AND I HOPE I DONT AT THIS AGE. ITS REALLY REALLY NICE TO HAVE A BABY BUT IT WOULD HAVE BEEN MUCH BETTER THE AGE OF 20 AND UP BUT STILL I HOPE ALL YOU PREGNATE GIRLS ALWAYS MAKE THE RIGHT DESICIONES AND NEVER GIVE ABORTION BECAUSE THATS THE MOST TERRIBLE THING A MOTHER CAN DO.

Stephanie

hey i thought that was really good. and i helped me out a little bit so i can see how it's going to be for because im 17 and i just found out that im 4 wks pg. i know thats not far but i been thinkin about a lot of things and how my life is going to change forever. but i think i can handle it if you can i can. Thanx for the poem! :-)

Naomi

Splendid! I'm 21 and though i haven't been a mother yet, I can relate to your poem coz i did have a similar experience in which i thought i was pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. It made me paranoid for a couple of days but luckily I wasn't pregnant. But how u felt in the poem, was exactly what I had felt at that time in my life.

Rebekah

I love this poem, it really opened my eyes, I'm pregnant and I'm scared, but when I read this poem, it opened my eyes thank you

Tiffany

This poem has touched and inspired me for i am 17 years old and i am going to be a mother. I am 8 months pregnant and i feel so depressed and alone right now, i feel i have no one. Just as thnigs seem to get better my baby daddy and i always fall out. I'm about ready to call it a quit between us because he is causing to much stress on me and it's going to affect my child. I want my little girl to grow up with a father but i really can't take it any more.

i relate to this all the way i am only 14 years of age and iam 71/2 mths pregnate. I was thinking of abortion but i couldn't kill something i made. So i decided iam keeping it or should i say "her". My baby's father is 19 and is still in our lives. We are very happy, But iam really scared. Its gonna be hard but i think i can get threw it. its just theres not a right way to be a mother. I myself lost my mother at the age of 9 and my father is not really happy at the fact that iam pregnate. and keeping her. well i just hope what i am writing can help some of ya'll. wait til you love someone to have "sex"

jazmine

unlike you your gonna keep your kid iam 14 and allready had an abortion i wish i can take it back cuz everyday i live with the fact i killed my baby hope every thing goes good and you get what you want

sebrina

SPECTACULAR

amber

ur poem is so good it reminded me in a way cuzz i am a young mother ,

gina

i think this poem is good cuz this year alot of my friends got prego and it scared me because my sis is and shes only 16 i'm 15. she thinks this poem helped her so thanx.

Rhea

i was 19 when i had my baby,its hard. i was alone through most of pregnancy. thought about giving her up for adoption. Now i'm happy i didnt. staring at my daughter and watching her grow brings more joy too my life more then anything in the world. Mamma loves you kelsi.

victoria

i was 15 when i had my baby i know what you are going throw, my boy is now 2 still with me a hard life, but still with me. good luck to you girl , i hope for you.

ernestina

well i can't say that i have kids nor ami pregnant so i don't understand! but i liked your poem and i just wanted to say hang in there things will get better because they always do and think now you have the joy like your mom did to watch your child grow and learn and acheive her goals and aspirations and it is more a blessing because you see first hand what your mom felt when you first walked or when you talked for the first time! always smile tina

Lauren

Hey, Your poem is a really good one. I am 15 years old and i have a 7 month old baby so you are not alone. At first it was hard for me it still is do not get me wrong with the depression and all but it makes us young parents open our eyes.

Samm

i found out i was 6mths pregnant wen i was 12,my baby boy was born exactly a month b4 my 13th birthday. he was supposed 2 have been adopted at birth but wen i saw him he was gorgeous+i fell inlove wiv him. he is now just turned 8. lookin back now maybe i would have had an abortion if i had known early enuf but now i love my son wiv every beat of my heart and wouldnt change him for the world! every1 looked at me oddly wen i took him out-old ladies told me i was 2 young 2 be in charge of such a young baby+told me 2 take him home 2 his mum-they were gobsmacked wen i told them he was my son. they would mutter under their breaths about the 'youths of today' never mind wot other ppl think-wherther ur in a relationship or bringin the child up on ur own-u will manage+in time u will get ur life back again. just enjoy motherhood-its the best experience in the world XXX

Sobeyda

I can relate to this poem because i am 15 and am 6 months pregnant,i had a temperary miscarrage and was on bedrest almost my whole summer so the baby could live. now everything is ok and i found out i am having a boy.

annmaree

hey i just wanna say this poem has made me think im 14 and was raped fro the age of 9 to the age of 13. i fell pregnant because of it and i look at my baby girl now and still see hate and fear but then i see my own flesh and blood my beutiful daughter who i love and cherish and im glad i did not have an abortion

Nicola

Hi I really needed something like your poam as I am 16 and expecting a baby I have lost one to so I am really scared but the poam has help me think

Sarah

I was 18 when i had Stevie, when i found out i thought that my life was over, i was now just a mother. I look at my daughter as i type this, she smiles up at me with her toothie grin, while she does her homework and i hate my self for every thinking that because of her my life was over, she is my life and i still have so much more to see with her.

Tori

Yea I can relate to that poem. When I was 11 someone I know sold me for drugs, and I got pregnant. Unfortunatly he died:( But I remember that feeling. It'll all be okay. I took care of him by myself for 3 years. So it'll all be okay!

ashlie

this poem is so sad and i can relate because i'm 15 and i think i may be preganant and this poem brings realization and saddness to me i really like it

i really want to hav a baby but i dont kno if i could handle the resposibility u r all brave people

shorty

i'm 15 going on 16 and my boyfriend is 19 he wants to have a baby and i thought about it and i kind of wanted to 2 but now that i read this and the comments about your poem i relized it would be hard i mean i want to but not now i'm not ready and i hope everything goes ok and i see how hard is for one of my friends she was 14 and she has it so hard so thanks this helped me.

tamra

hey girl i undertand where you are comming from i just found out i was 10 weeks pregant and i am only 15. the doctors told me that i was when i went in to find out more about my cancer in my cerix.

Brittney

I'm 16years old, 17in April. I've got 2more weeks until I find out if I'm pregnant or not. I'm REALLY scared! Your poem has opened my eyes a little bit more. Thank you for writing it!

Racquel

Girl, you and all these other girls are brave soldier like me. I discovered I was pregnant when I was 13 yrs. old. Imagine that! I was scared, I didn't know what my parents/family would say. Well my baby is 1 yr. old and her dad is here every now and then. He's 15, I'm 14 now. I doing okay my mom's helping me out and it all turned out okay. It gets harder sense I'm in school but it's okay.

Sarah

I had my first when I was 17 and my second when I was 19. I know how hard it is and at this moment I am still scared. I loved this poem. It was beautiful.

the thrills not gone its just beginning. i'm 16 and going to have a baby in a month.

val

I got pregnant when I was 17, and I can really relate to this poem. It is very true. But with alot of hard work and support,anything is possiable,I am now 25 my daughter is 7,we've had it hard at times but have made it through,with support from family and friends, she is a straight a student,I am a leasing agent,And my daughter is excited of her new baby sister on the way. What seems to be impossiable at times is possiable if only you give it your all.

I bet alot of teen mothers can really relate to this poem.

Annie

My best friend is pregnant and she is fifteen. Is this how she feels? .Trapped? Wow.

candice

i know what ur goin through and it is a real big change but all u have to say is that i made this decision and i ahve something so special now that i can hopefully raise to be different . my daughter is now 19 months and it gets harder but i would like to talk to u more . so write me back if u want. take care of the baby and urself and all of the luck in the world . i had my daughter when i was 18 so we all have a lot to look forward too .bye

mindy

Even as a single parent and teenage pregnancy, my life has changed forever. I Love my kids so much. I thought there was nooo way I could do it at 18 single and still in high school.But you can do it. The love you get from your kids is enough.

litluv_69

I know how you fill im going throue this now. You gave me a lot of hope the fother is a dead beat man so thank you now i no im not alone

Sandra

i was 16 yrs old when i had these thoughts. i didn't ask for it but it was delt,bad card game at the time (i was raped)! but now she is going to be 7 this year and i thank god for this gift..

Barbara

This poem reminds me about what happened to me 6 months ago. When I found out I was pregnant, but later on to find out that I had a miss carrage.... When I read it the only thing I could do was cry because it made me think.

beverly

i love it

Stephanie

I really thought this poem really had something to do with me. It is excellent.

Haley

Teen mothers need courage and this is it.

stephanie

just wanna say that this poem whas short , verry sad, but beutifull. i know what ya feel like. i had a daughter at the age of 16 and it's whas really hard for me to except it. but i made it treu the years. i dont know if your luky that the father whas helping you out, but the father of mine child did. and i'm still with im and my child is now a year, and i'm still going to school. i hope you have the change to finish your school to.

Kimber

I could have written these exact words five years ago. What an awesome poem! She put into words what many woman feel at that time in their lives.

marie

i really like this poem alot because i can almost relate to it! my brother and his girlfriend had a gorges baby boy when they were still teenagers. my brother was 17 and his girlfriend was 16.now there 18 and 17 and the baby is so special to all of us.The baby is fixing to turn two. Like the poem says "I'm a child fixing to have a child." well, they are kids trying to rase a kid! GOOD JOB! :)

tasheica

this poem was more then words and phrases it really touched me because i am in the same boat as she is except im 16 and i lost my child yesterday evening. take care of yourself!

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